Part IV: Mommy isn’t Perfect
Oh I can still hear my mom telling us to this day “I have eyes in the back of my head!! I know, see and hear EVERYTHING!!!”
Ooohhhh SCARY!!!!
Thing is, as I grew into “adulthood”- trust me there is reason for those brackets, hee hee- I came to a very solemn realization, Mommy and Daddy DON’T know everything and what’s more their word is not THE word, it’s just one version of the word, according to the “word” they had been taught and that which they had learned through their own life experiences.
That was a pretty big blow.
Aside from the awesome depressed levels of happiness incurred upon the realization that Mom and Dad are not infallible GODDESS and GOD, was the fact that I had made most of my choices growing up with mom and dad’s voices in my head, telling me what was right and what was wrong, regardless of what my own voice was telling me.
True, this is a good thing, in most situations, if ya have good parents and I did!, however……there is a huge difference between weighing your options and down right throwing them out the window, because they don’t jive with what someone else has told you, even if that someone else is your mom or dad.
This mindless contemplation is only further carried out in our socialization process from our educational systems to our professional industries. “Don’t rock the boat”, “that’s way too out of the box”, “you must conform to the boundaries set by our code”, “this is the way we do it here!”, are only a few of the enormity of conditioned lessons taught to elicit the conditioned responses desired by those whom deem themselves people of authoritative influence, wisdom and knowledge.
“Those” whom so do, are just people, like me and like you! Change does not occur by following the leader, inventions do not happen because we are accepting things as is, evolution does not take place by thinking the same thoughts that brought us to our current situation. We must question, contemplate, and think for our selves, seek beyond that which is comfortable or provided easily by another.
Mindless existence does not an enlightened BEing make.
Having gone through my first revelation of mom and dad’s humanness before giving birth to Zion, it was a conscious choice upon learning of my pending motherhood that my child would know that Mommy is just another human BEing DOing the very best she can to provide the very best she is able, to ensure his Happiness and Well BEing- in LOVE’s Light of course :O)
This turned out to BE an AWEsome lesson gifted my son. To KNOW that Mom could be wrong, WOW!!! That meant I could ask her “WHY?” and know I have a right to so do.
Zion never heard, “because I told you so!” as a response to any question, it simply was not acceptable to me and as a result, to him.
He is a human BEing, an individual and deserves to know what I am thinking and why I am thinking that which I am. He deserves to know why he is being asked to do something and why it is in his best interests to listen, and dare I say, on those rare occasions, not listen :O)
Yup, Mommy can be wrong and Zion has the ability to point out just why that may so be.
He also has fantastic skills of negotiation due to our enlightened learning, and thus is able to discuss rationally with me, how and why he feels as he does, and thus present his case in a very reasonable and logical manner.
More importantly than all this, Zion is able to TRUST me, TRUST that I am DOing my very best to ensure his WHOLE Happiness, and TRUST in our relationship. He is able to TRUST that because I am human and thus not always right, that it is okay to come to me with any issue and not feel an awesome fear in so doing. This enables Both, ALLways, open lines of communication And an ease in finding a common ground upon which we can “work it out”.
Is my kid perfect, NO!!! He is perfect in his imperfection, just like his mommy, and together we are the perfect, imperfect pair, and that’s just how way we like it
Here’s to the Greatest Universal Blessed Gift, Children, everywhere
and our realization that in TRUTH, WE are ALL Children, regardless of chronological age. Each and every one of us deserve to BE treated with the unconditional LOVE and Respect we so easily lavish upon our children.
Blessedly BE
Radiate Soul Light/roni
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